Living Well With Cancer During the Holidays

December 18, 2014
By: Sandy Lipkus

The holiday season is traditionally a time of joy and celebration, however, for a young adult with cancer, it can be a time of apprehension and uncertainty. Whether you are newly diagnosed, in treatment or post treatment, you may wonder about how to (or how not to) celebrate this year.

You may be experiencing physical limitations, financial burdens, loss of independence or tension in your relationships. How can you make this holiday meaningful for yourself, for your children and for other family members? Are you able to continue with your traditional celebrations? Do you really want to?

With these questions in mind, here are some suggestions that might make the holidays easier for you this year:

· Set realistic goals and determine what is the most important. Plan in advance how and with whom you want to spend your time. Perhaps a small gathering of family and friends can replace the usual large family celebration.
· When it comes to gift giving, turn to the Internet for shoppingas opposed to spending time in stores.
· Take good care of yourself. Exercise, relaxation, sleep, and eating sensibly will help to reduce the stress and fatigue you may feel.
· If you plan on taking a trip, check with your doctor to see if travel is advisable. Make sure to pack extra medication and bring copies of your medical and contact information. Wear a mask in crowds for protection. Wash your hands frequently.
· Connect online either with other young adults or with family members and friends to stay in touch. It is easier than talking in person or even on the telephone. Be mindful of sharing too much info via social media for security and privacy reasons.
· Create a to do list and delegate others to help (children, spouse, parents or friends). Do not be afraid to say noor to ask for assistance.
· Set a spending budget and stick to it.
· Rethink traditions: think of ways to modify your traditions, or start some new ones this year. Holiday customs may change as a result of your medical condition. Perhaps indoor activities would be less strenuous on your body, or consider catering instead of cooking.
· Do something for someone else. Call, write or email someone elderly or ill. This can do wonders for your spirit.
· Connect with other young adults or with other young parents with children. You will share common concerns and be supported by one another.
· Take some time to write about your cancer journey via stories, journal entries or poetry.
· Be patient with your loved ones. They may expect you to be more cheerful and into the spirit of the holiday season. Talk to them.
· Family and friends can provide the practical and emotional support you need. Keep those loved ones close to you.

Remember, there is no right or wrong way to handle the holidays. Do what you feel is best for you. Try to focus on the present moment and enjoy your celebration in whatever form it takes. Remember what the holidays are truly about – a time for being thankful and sharing with others.